The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy is as Necessary as Love and Sex

The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy is as Necessary as Love and Sex

Why do men and women cheat on each other? How do men really feel when their partners have sex with other men? What worries women more -- men who turn to other women for love or men who simply want sexual variety in their lives? Can the jealousy husbands and wives experience over real or imagined infidelities be cured? Should it be? In this surprising and engaging exploration of men's and women's darker passions, David Buss, acclaimed author of "The Evolution of Desire," reveals that both men and women are actually designed for jealousy. Drawing on experiments, surveys, and interviews conducted in thirty-seven countries on six continents, as well as insights from recent discoveries in biology, anthropology, and psychology, Buss discovers that the evolutionary origins of our sexual desires still shape our passions today. According to Buss, more men than women want to have sex with multiple partners. Furthermore, women who cheat on their husbands do so when they are most likely to conceive, but have sex with their spouses when they are least likely to conceive. These findings show that evolutionary tendencies to acquire better genes through different partners still lurk beneath modern sexual behavior. To counteract these desires to stray -- and to strengthen the bonds between partners -- jealousy evolved as an early detection system of infidelity in the ancient and mysterious ritual of mating.

Buss takes us on a fascinating journey through many cultures, from pre-historic to the present, to show the profound evolutionary effect jealousy has had on all of us. Only with a healthy balance of jealousy and trust can we be certain of a mate's commitment, devotion, and true love.

Title:The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy is as Necessary as Love and Sex
Edition Language:English
ISBN:9780684850818
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  • Jaidee

    3.5 "well laid out, thought provoking but over-reaching" stars !! This is a poem by Sappho after she catches her beloved Queen Lesbia flirting with a man !!He is a god in my eyes, that man,Given to si...

  • Brandt

    I am a robot.At least sometimes it feels like I am a robot. And I guess there is some truth to it. I tend to view everything through a overly logical lens. From where I sit, emotional entanglements te...

  • Dan

    I am a sucker for "how do people really work" with experimental evidence. This book delivers. David is a professor of psychology at the University of Texas who has spent a serious hunk of his career s...

  • mark

    Happy new year - this might come in handy:The trouble with this type of book is there are so many references, in this case approximately 275. Now who’s going to read all of those, much less verify t...

  • Dennis Littrell

    "Necessary" from the POV of the genes...Jealousy exists, like love and sex, to help propagate an individual's genes. It is a mechanism of the species to help insure for males paternity, and for female...

  • Tina

    I'm interested in psychology and the psychology of relationships fascinate me, which is why I picked up this book. I rated it highly because, even though I read a lot of psychology books, this one had...

  • Kimberley

    This book astonished me. I had no idea that jealousy was so useful! I had no idea it was so necessary. I had no idea how dangerous it can be. David Buss made jealously make complete sense to me even w...

  • Malcolm Gorman

    Just as cognitive science, neurology, endocrinology etc. begin to make the DSM look like a classification of symptoms with little in the way of an aetiological foundation, evolutionary psychology begi...

  • Juliet

    Scientific look at feelings as necessary in regards to sex and love. Pretty interesting. Definitely gets you thinking about what love is, and whether jealousy is really required in this day and age wh...

  • Margaretha Chomsi

    Awesome!!...